"I'll be coming home, wait for me"
-Righteous Brothers, Unchained Melody , (theme from the movie, "Ghost")

My mother allegedly died on April 2nd. I say allegedly because a collector representing MBNA said he talked to her on June 21st.

Until I saw a letter from Dale Lamb, I felt pretty certain my mother was dead.

I viewed her lifeless body at the hospital. A funeral director, who I have known since the second grade, gave me an urn that supposedly contained her ashes. I have a death certificate from the state of Kentucky.

Despite all that, Lamb claims to have talked to her on June 21st. You can find a copy of the letter from Lamb and my mother’s death certificate at www.donmcnay.com.

Thanks to MBNA and their collector--the ironically named, True Logic Financial Corporation--mom is now in a category with Elvis Presley, Kurt Cobain, and Jim Morrison. She has been deemed alive despite tremendous evidence to the contrary.

Mom would love being associated with Elvis but would not have been wild about being categorized with Kurt and Jim.

It seems almost comical, but I am really angry. My mother died without warning, and  I  miss her.  If MBNA’s collector is able to talk to her, I wish he would give me her number.

The story of my mom and MBNA is an example why credit card companies need more regulation.

I was named administrator of mom’s estate after she supposedly died. I then received a letter from a company called Mann Bracken, saying MBNA had obtained  an arbitration award against mom.

No one in my family knew anything about a debt to MBNA or seen notice of an arbitration hearing.   Mom was supposedly dead, so we could not ask her.

I hired a lawyer to contact Mann Bracken to give us some verification of the alleged debt and arbitration award. Two months went by with no response.  The attorney followed up again but Mann Bracken never got back to us.

Instead of responding to my attorney, MBNA shifted the alleged debt to True Logic.  The True Logic people didn’t claim that MBNA actually had an arbitration award--only that they might get one.  

Taking MBNA and True Logic at their word, I’m curious as to what mom said to Mr. Lamb.  I hope they have a tape recording. Mom was known to use salty language, and I’m sure Mr. Lamb would have heard some.

I’m not as  prone to  foul language, but if MBNA calls me, I am going to make an exception.

After True Logic sent the letter for MBNA, I once again hired an attorney, and once again he sent a letter denying the alleged debt.  Once again, we have not had a response.

 If MBNA wants to sue, I am not sure if they will go after the estate or have mom declared “un-dead” since they are having conversations with her.  I’m not sure how to proceed if mom orally agrees to a payment plan.  A judge will have to figure all that out.

The whole incident has made me wonder how often MBNA ignores the legal right of creditors to verify a debt.  They have one collector send a letter, ignore the response and then have another collector try again.

 I suspect that collectors can sometimes convince an unsuspecting family or estate to pay money.

The first letter from MBNA claiming that they had actually obtained an arbitration award sounded serious.  It was enough for me to hire a lawyer.   The only follow up I received from MBNA was the letter from Mr. Lamb saying he spoke to a woman  who is legally  dead.

On the other hand, it could be that Lamb did talk to mom. One of her favorite movies was Ghost.  Mom may not be able to communicate with me, but Lamb might be a real-life version of the psychic that Whoopi Goldberg portrayed in the movie. By talking to Lamb, Mom may be sending a signal that she wants MBNA put up or shut up.

Mom is one you never wanted to mess with. Allegedly dead or allegedly alive.

Don McNay is the Chairman of the Board for McNay Settlement Group, where the people that we talk to are still living. You can write to him at This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it or read other columns (and the letter from Mr. Lamb) at www.donmcnay.com.  His award-winning column is syndicated on the CNHI News Service.   He is on the Board of  Directors for the National Society of Newspaper Columnists.